Hi, I'm Lani

When you stop feeling guilty, you STOP doing these...

burning yourself out
stress eating or drinking
regretting your actions
thinking you're not doing enough
being overwhelmed

people pleasing
lacking motivation in your own pursuits
being resentful of your situation
jumping to anger
over scrolling social media or Netflix

overextending yourself
numbing your emotions
thinking you're doing it wrong
feeling stuck
second-guessing yourself
wallowing in self-pity

And, you START living in peace, building your confidence, increasing your mental and physical health.

And, you become a better caregiver.

I need coaching! I want to stop living like this.

the younger part of the sandwich generation

the older half of the sandwich generation

I listen to caregivers

and teach them how to take control of their emotions and their life

What I Believe

Caring for parents is hard. Dealing with family is, well, sometimes a real pain in the ass. Resentment and overwhelm happen. Then, it all ends in grief.

Been there, still doing that.

Here are a couple beliefs that help me get through this.

We Create Our Own Reality

Nobody else can control our emotions. That's our job alone, thank goodness!
Situations don't cause our feelings. Our own thoughts do. And, we have a choice in that.
Other people don't cause our feelings. I know, it really seems like they do! But, they only have as much power as we give them.
We don't want to be happy all the time. We want to be sad, afraid, angry, grieving, joyful, and everything in between. That makes us feel alive!
Guilt is only useful when we've done something wrong. 99% of the time, guilt is useless, and even harmful.

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