Hi, I'm Lani
When you stop feeling guilty, you STOP doing these...
- burning yourself out
- stress eating or drinking
- regretting your actions
- thinking you're not doing enough
- being overwhelmed
- people pleasing
- lacking motivation in your own pursuits
- being resentful of your situation
- jumping to anger
- over scrolling social media or Netflix
- overextending yourself
- numbing your emotions
- thinking you're doing it wrong
- feeling stuck
- second-guessing yourself
- wallowing in self-pity
And, you START living in peace, building your confidence, increasing your mental and physical health.
And, you become a better caregiver.
I need coaching! I want to stop living like this.
I listen to caregivers
and teach them how to take control of their emotions and their life
What I Believe
Caring for parents is hard. Dealing with family is, well, sometimes a real pain in the ass. Resentment and overwhelm happen. Then, it all ends in grief.
Been there, still doing that.
Here are a couple beliefs that help me get through this.
We Create Our Own Reality
- Nobody else can control our emotions. That's our job alone, thank goodness!
- Situations don't cause our feelings. Our own thoughts do. And, we have a choice in that.
- Other people don't cause our feelings. I know, it really seems like they do! But, they only have as much power as we give them.
- We don't want to be happy all the time. We want to be sad, afraid, angry, grieving, joyful, and everything in between. That makes us feel alive!
- Guilt is only useful when we've done something wrong. 99% of the time, guilt is useless, and even harmful.
Everything is a Choice
Did you know that you don't have to take care of anyone? Or ever talk to your family members again?
Yep, you can leave your kids (some people do), disown siblings, and leave your parents to fend for themselves (most people do).
Dropping the heavy feelings of "I have to" and "I should" and adopting the idea "I want to" can make all the difference.
Discover the level of caregiving that you want to offer.
What are your reasons for wanting to?
Stop guilt-tripping yourself.
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Drowning in caregiver guilt?
The 5 Powerful Steps to Stop Caregiver Guilt helps you pinpoint where that guilt comes from, shatter impossible expectations, and drop the emotional weight you don’t need to carry.
Free yourself from guilt so you can show up as a better caregiver. You and your special someone deserve that confidence — and this guide shows you how to get it.
5 Powerful Steps to Stop Caregiver Guilt
When we feel better, we do better
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