Hi, I'm Lani
When you manage your emotions, you STOP doing these...
- guilt tripping yourself
- stress eating or drinking
- regretting your actions
- thinking you're not doing enough
- being overwhelmed
- people pleasing
- lacking motivation for yourself
- being constantly anxious
- jumping to anger
- over scrolling social media or Netflix
- overextending yourself
- thinking you're doing it wrong
- getting stuck in grief
- wallowing in self-pity
- thinking others should be different
And, you START living in peace
I listen to caregivers
and teach them how to take control of their emotions and their life
What I Believe
Caring for parents is hard. Dealing with family is, well, sometimes a real pain in the ass. Resentment and overwhelm happen. Then, it all ends in grief.
Been there, still doing that.
Here are a couple beliefs that help me get through this.
free will: you get to choose what you want to believeWe Create Our Own Reality
- Nobody else can control our emotions. That's our job alone, thank goodness!
- Situations don't cause our feelings. Our own thoughts do. And, we have a choice in that.
- Other people don't cause our feelings. I know, it really seems like they do! But, they only have as much power as we give them.
- We don't want to be happy all the time. We want to be sad, afraid, angry, grieving, joyful, and everything in between. That makes us feel alive!
Everything is a Choice
Did you know that you don't have to take care of anyone? Or ever talk to your family members again?
Yep, you can leave your kids (some people do), disown siblings, and leave your parents to fend for themselves (most people do).
Dropping the heavy feelings of "I have to" and "I should" and adopting the idea "I want to" can make all the difference.
Discover the level of caregiving that you want to offer.
What are your reasons for wanting to?
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